What is the point of attending umpteen workshops and not apply it?
What is the point of sharing what you have learned with others and not practise it?
Many work through the doors of the centre I work with, and many attend workshops or even seek private sessions of counselling on their endeavours of their journey. Yet strangely, the moment they walk out the door, it is as if everything is forgotten and given back to those who had imparted their sharing. Of course, I am not saying that all are of the same. In fact, there are some who are pretty vigilant in their practice and it is not hard to tell when lots of queries are posted afterwards as if hungry—hungry for more. Yet, is the practise all about just questioning and pondering and listening to others’ talk and occasionally joining in the conversation? Lots of techniques and information has been given, and I have observed that most only ‘apply’ when they are in great distress or pain over a certain issue and such attitude usually has much to do with wanting to ‘get rid of’, ‘get away from’ and ‘fix it’ as motivation. Other than that, for those matters that don’t trigger enough, they let those bypass them as if those matters are too trivial. Of course, I am not saying that we dwell in ‘smaller’ issues, but we seldom see the potential of ‘smaller’ issues as bringing us deeper insights that could very well prepare for us for a potential ‘bigger’ issue. We fail to see that those smaller issues are actually accumulated causes that end up as a ‘big’ overwhelming issue later on as effect when not addressed earlier. Having said that, I am also not saying that we don’t practise discernment in the things we question in the mind although the journey can be very much accelerated if the wheel has started turning. Why stop?
I have come across beginner practitioners who practise often enough that the little, little realisations that they gain from their little, little issues are overwhelmingly mind-blowing to the extent that when they are faced with a bigger issue in life, they find that they were already naturally calmer in addressing the big issue rather than having to try to be calm and start being mindful or to initiate the inquiry process. That to me, is a result of practice leading to natural transformation. It is when you have nothing to fix, the attitude is appropriate for mindfulness and inquiry is wholesome for the practice to be fruitful. The ‘wanting to fix it’ attitude already comes from a mental of wanting something out of it from not wanting the situation instead of genuine inquisitiveness and curiosity; where there lies your wholesome motivation for the practice? Yet paradoxically, isn’t it a daunting issue that propels us on the journey?
I invite those who came on the journey from a past hurt to see the issue as only a catalyst for you to come into your own journey of understanding yourself fully and not only for this one incident. There are many areas in life which could potentially lead you to inner peace and inner freedom. And I invite those already on the journey to be diligent enough in your practice rather than again and again succumbing to the patterns of self judgement. The final frontier is always, always towards yourself and if you have stopped there, it is as good as not starting the journey in the first place. You have come to equip yourself with skills sufficient to carry out the practice on your own; also being assured again and again that support is just around the corner though not for you to depend on. Make full use of it. Don’t let anything stop you from your immense potential.