Intimacy during communication can only occur with honesty, authenticity and clarity. What I mean by honesty here is being totally naked in expressing one’s vulnerability; authenticity as in not covering up what is being expressed to make it sound ‘nicer’ or ‘beautiful’ or even ‘kinder’ to the ears of the other; and clarity as in,… Continue reading Communicating after Learning
Tag: Byron Katie
The Devil
Your ego has to terrify you all the time, so that you can investigate and come home to yourself in the body. This is what we’re all here to live. When we aren’t attached to our thinking, when all the why’s, when’s, and where’s let go of us, then what really is becomes visible. ~… Continue reading The Devil
Normal Life
We think that because Jesus and the Buddha wore robes and owned nothing, that’s how freedom is supposed to look. But can you live a normal life and be free? Can you do it from here, right now? That’s what I want for you. We have the same desire: your freedom. And I love that… Continue reading Normal Life
The Inner Voice
The voice within is what I honour. It’s what I’m married to. This life doesn’t belong to me. The voice says, “Brush your teeth.” Okay. I don’t know what for, I just move on through. It says, “Walk.” Okay. I just keep moving. Someone says, “Will you come do The Work with us?” Okay. I’m… Continue reading The Inner Voice
What has it got to do with you?
What has my loving you, got anything to do with my feelings of being abandoned, being betrayed? What has my loving you, got anything to do with wanting to be with you, to kiss you, hold you, or to the extent of having you make love to me? What has my loving you, got anything… Continue reading What has it got to do with you?
Where it Begins, is Where it Ends
I received a text message from a friend I have not connected with for years who shared that she was abused. Since I do not know her well (although we were from the same class during our younger days), it was as good as sharing with a stranger; and I guess the space between us… Continue reading Where it Begins, is Where it Ends
Give evil nothing to oppose and it will disappear by itself
Life is simple. Everything happens for you, not to you. Everything happens at exactly the right moment, neither too soon nor too late. You don’t have to like it – it’s just easier if you do. If you have a problem, it can only be because of your unquestioned thinking. How do you react when… Continue reading Give evil nothing to oppose and it will disappear by itself
Inquire
Hurt feelings, or discomfort of any kind cannot be caused by another person. No one outside me can hurt me. That’s not a possibility. It’s only when I believe a stressful thought that I get hurt. And I’m the one who’s hurting me by believing what I think. This is very good news, because it… Continue reading Inquire
Why won’t you love me?
Have you ever wondered why most of us could never believe another when he or she lovingly tells us “I love you”? It is either we don’t believe that we are that lovable, or in a very deep seated way, we know that he or she is not loving our true self, but a façade… Continue reading Why won’t you love me?
Arriving without Leaving
If I want to know whether I am good at something, at par with a certain height, achieved a certain level, or how far do I have to go to arrive at a goal, I would have to compare my being somewhere with something, or someone to ascertain it. Even if I choose not to… Continue reading Arriving without Leaving